Scooter? I barely even know her!
So, as a woman who has largely been in relationships for the past few years (and someone who is generally about as subtle as a bulldozer), I’m still getting the hang of these nuances of language by which one figures out that they are being asked on a date (or on a date, as the case sometimes is). I could use some advice on how to get and communicate my interest or lack thereof in a way that preserves appearances and relationships.
Case in point, I emailed my male friend to gloat about a recent vacation I took that would be awesome. He sent me back an invitation to hang out over the weekend, proposing that we enjoy the weather by taking a spin on his motorcycle. No warning bells yet. I express my excitement at the idea and let him know when I’m free. He then writes back and says that after our ride, we should “catch up over dinner.” Now, I’m no dating rocket scientist, but this is starting to sound a bit like a date. So. . . .what are my strategies to 1.) determine it’s a date, and then, assuming it is, 2.) move things back into friend territory? All this must be done without jeopardizing the prospect of the motorcycle ride, because they are AWESOME.
Thoughts? Am I reading the situation correctly or inappropriately assuming any dude that wants to talk to me wants to sleep with me (damn it I hate it when that happens)? Can I get a ride on the bike without awkward avoidance of eye contact for the hour following?
